The easiest way to be interesting is to be interested in others

  • "Be interested in others" is basically the core message of Dale Carnegie's Book - How to win friends and influence peopleBook - How to win friends and influence people


    author: Dale Carnegie
    title: How to win friends and influence people

  • Like most things in the book, this sounds painfully obvious, however, in typical conversations, most of us just wait until the others have finished so that it's our turn to share something. Getting people to be interested in you this way is incredibly exhausting.
  • Carnegie puts it into words beautifully "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
  • Thinking about conversations with this in mind will make them way less intimidating: You will not run out of topics to talk about and you do not need to have anything amazing to share. Just ask questions, listen, ask follow up questions. Your time to chime in will come naturally.
    • Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.
  • To take this a step further, Carnegie brings up the example of 32nd US President Franklin D. Roosevelt. He was so dedicated in the others persons interest, that he spent the night before a meeting reading up on a topic the other person was likely interested in.