Saying no trades popularity for respect

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author: Greg McKeown
title: Essentialism: the disciplined pursuit of less
year: [[2014]]



argues that saying 'yes' to requests is based on social pressure: We say yes to most requests because we are eager to please and make a difference. However, this fills up our schedule and lives with commitments that keep us from doing what's truly important.

Keeping up boundaries and achieving more will lead to more respect in the long term, even though people will react mixed to rejections. To make this non problematic in personal relationships, we need to think and communicate in a way that separates the decisions form the relationship.

We will regret saying no for a minutes but saying yes for days, weeks, months or even years, see: The most dangerous word in one's productivity vocabulary is 'yes'The most dangerous word in one's productivity vocabulary is 'yes'
I will need to expand on this idea once I have digested essentialism

Cal Newport also raises this point, in [[Book - Deep Work.. 3 Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World]] as saying yes t...

Interestingly, Carnegie recommends Get the other person to say 'yes' as soon as possibleGet the other person to say 'yes' as soon as possible

A typical tactic to get anyone on your good side is to get them into the flow of saying "yes". [[Book - How to win friends and influence people]] vouches for the power of this little trick.
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as a way of persuasion, which further highlights how the social pressure to be agreeable and consistent shapes our actions.