If you want someone to improve at a thing, treat them as if they were already good at it

  • The premise here is very simple. If you want someone to be punctual in the future, praise them for always being punctual in the past, regardless of their actual punctuality.
  • Book - How to win friends and influence peopleBook - How to win friends and influence people

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    author: Dale Carnegie
    title: How to win friends and influence people




    puts this nicely:
    • "Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to"
  • We are intrinsically motivated to stay consistent with our past selves, which are in turn built by the feedback we receive from others.
  • Also, people do not want to disappoint people who gave them praise for a specific thing.