If you have the urge to tidy up for other people, you are probably not finished with you room

In the Book - The life-changing magic of tidying up.. the Japanese art of decluttering and organizingBook - The life-changing magic of tidying up.. the Japanese art of decluttering and organizing

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author: Marie Kondō, Cathy Hirano
title: The life-changing magic of tidying up: the Japanese art of decluttering and organizing
year: [[2014]]



, Marie Kondo tells us a story from her childhood, where she would tidy up the things of her family members, even going as far as secretly discarding things they did not use. Even though it went unnoticed most of the time, it ended up with protest and fighting in some instances.

When she was banished to only tidying uptidying up
The main topic of [[Book - The life-changing magic of tidying up.. the Japanese art of decluttering and organizing]]

The KonMari methods simplified:

1.  Gather all items in that category in one p...
her only room, a shocking realization set in: She wasn't even finished with cleaning up her own room, as there still were a number of items that she did not need. When she finally discarded the last few, her family miraculously started decluttering their own things bit by bit. Also, she was far more content with the clutter in the house:

Once I was satisfied with my own room, I no longer felt the urge to dispose of things belonging to my siblings or parents.

The ONLY way to get people to do anything is to make them want to do itThe ONLY way to get people to do anything is to make them want to do it

This idea from [[Book - How to win friends and influence people]] sounds simple enough, but thinking about motivation from this angle helps us think from the perspective of the people we are try...
, and that only happens in this case by setting an example. ("Be so good that they cannot ignore you")

Psychoanalysis calls this phenomenon "projection" (what is the empirical backing of this phenomenon??), once we don't suffer the problem of being untidy ourselves, we are a lot more okay with others being untidy.

These is something inherently Stoic/Buddhist in here, where focusing on yourself will have the greatest impact on the world around you. (this line of thought needs more work)